Lie.
I’m not a parent, first off, so this will all be speculation, but, I can imagine that as a parent, you only want what’s best for your child. You want them to have it easy. Not to have to struggle. Not have to claw, tooth and nail, scrounging for every inch of progress, only to have it ripped away at a moments notice, and have to start all over again, nay, I think that would be the last thing a parent would want for their child. Which is why its probably a real bummer when your precious little angel wants to become an actor.
Now, I believe that I have two of the most supportive parents an actor could ask for, short of being one of those stage parents that overindulge their star children to the point of raising them directly into the Betty Ford clinic. My lovely parents spent hours sitting through acting lessons, being scene partners, perfecting audition monologues over and over again, not to mention the hours sitting through performances that at least initially, were almost certainly not very good. My parents even encouraged me to follow my dream of acting when my own resolve failed and my fear of being poor threatened to keep me from even trying to succeed.
But even my near saintly, uber supportive mom and dad, have their limits.
After seeing their little girl turn to selling blood when times are lean, accepting many Craigslist offers that were less than savory, sometimes quite literally going hungry, and seeing it happen once or twice a year, year after year, and what with the successes being such a precious few and far between, its not hard to see how even the most invested parents on the planet might waiver in resolve. Now, I don’t mean to imply that my folks no longer support my dream, because they absolutely do. I merely wish to express that the plight of the thespian parent is not lost on me.
So if I may offer a word of advice to those parents of actors out there, it would be merely this: know that if we could be happy doing something else, we would. Know that when times are hard, and our doubts get so bad, we feel like we might literally be drowning, your unwaivering support, and believe me, I know what not waivering is costing you, your support may be the only thing that keeps us going when the situation seems especially dire. We know that its hard for you see us struggle, but if you can bear with us through the struggle, while we can’t promise it will pay off, we can promise it will mean the world to us.
And to the actors with uber supportive parents, if your parents look at you with big hopeful eyes and ask you if you have any auditions or big gigs coming up, look deep into their eyes, and lie.